tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426050656197929065.post6254560113656130514..comments2024-03-19T18:36:41.875-04:00Comments on Yes, That Too: I Don't See You As Autistic.Alyssahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06413844178426365789noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426050656197929065.post-56150374876503165872014-06-30T10:38:53.263-04:002014-06-30T10:38:53.263-04:00@ Robert: "I don't think of you as autist...@ Robert: "I don't think of you as autistic, I think of you as having autism," is not just expressing one's viewpoint, it's also an indirect denial of one's right to choose how to identify oneself. The woman then compounded the offence she caused by saying, "It was a compliment! You insult me by being rightfully insulted!" Do you see the problem now?Sheogorathhttp://www.aspergernauts.co.uk/forumnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426050656197929065.post-59818745940147281542013-02-14T10:29:34.550-05:002013-02-14T10:29:34.550-05:00Yeah, the first thing I said to her was, and I quo...Yeah, the first thing I said to her was, and I quote, "I know you are attempting to give a compliment, but this is not actually a compliment. Please listen to the explanations of why" and then linked to the posts the recipient of the compliment blog. I was polite, they condescended.Alyssahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06413844178426365789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426050656197929065.post-69086158268180881132013-02-14T10:08:14.797-05:002013-02-14T10:08:14.797-05:00So, starting out, I thought this was a very good p...So, starting out, I thought this was a very good post, but I changed my mind when you finally quoted the individual who's behavior you are targeting. I'm not saying that it's a bad post, but it's worse than I originally thought, because its target is a bit less valid than I thought.<br /><br />"I don't think of you as autistic, I think of you as having autism," is very different from the isolated form "I don't think of you as autistic," the latter of which implies "I think of you as not autistic." This is one of the worst things one can say to an individual of a given class, along the same lines as "one of the good ones," suggesting that their class is bad, but they transcend it.<br /><br />The former phrasing is clearly a statement of one's own views on how mental diversity should be viewed. While I do not agree with the it, it is simply and expression of viewpoint, and not even a fringe one. It is taught in many circles (including much of psychiatry and social work) that this viewpoint is correct, and more importantly, kind.<br /><br />What I'm espousing here (which I will admit has not yet been made obvious) is an understanding of where the person was coming from when they made their initial mistake, and a policy to be sure to respond sensitively to such mistakes in the future. I'm not in a position to comment much on their further behavior, but based on your description it seems they reacted very foolishly to what I hope was reasonable criticism. If that criticism was indeed delivered sensitively, then it is solely the fault of the recipient for responding so poorly, but it is the responsibility of the critic to be sensitive in their delivery, to be effective rather than alienating.<br /><br />That's all! Sorry for the novella.Roberthttp://impeachreagan.tumblr.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426050656197929065.post-27842000594447190872013-01-31T01:36:35.260-05:002013-01-31T01:36:35.260-05:00This post makes me incredibly happy. I don't ...This post makes me incredibly happy. I don't know when people decided that autism is something we should be ashamed of or something we should try to hide, but that's definitely not the way I see it. I've been told by a friend that I "usually act normal" and that upset me. Because I always act "normal" - my normal is just a bit different than her's. Sorry if this comment is getting ranty, but I just hate when people try to tell me I seem neurotypical or I did a good job in a social situation or something as if it's a compliment. I don't know why they don't get that if I weren't autistic, I wouldn't be MEAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14719399456379044941noreply@blogger.com