tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426050656197929065.post8550245963122213185..comments2024-03-19T18:36:41.875-04:00Comments on Yes, That Too: Teaching us to be Silent.Alyssahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06413844178426365789noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426050656197929065.post-10573568830108839282015-08-23T19:36:19.608-04:002015-08-23T19:36:19.608-04:00I was taught to be silent and forced to be right-h...I was taught to be silent and forced to be right-handed. (You can read about the latter on my blog.) Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10616282351291824392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426050656197929065.post-47990966795552206882013-05-15T17:36:40.712-04:002013-05-15T17:36:40.712-04:00This was the training that I received because I wa...This was the training that I received because I was a girl starting 56 years ago. I never could manage to do it right. I think I was 16 or so when I decided it was all bullshit and I didn't want to follow the role. So much of parenting (the way the social rules go) seems to be pushing the kid to fit into society--the "real world". Screw that. The cost is too high and it's utter bullshit. I don't know how it will turn out with my daughter, but I'm doing my best to teach her not to blindly fit in. Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02842905140124934027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426050656197929065.post-56508148581264148552013-01-24T19:55:36.434-05:002013-01-24T19:55:36.434-05:00I want to teach my kids BOTH! I want to do it RIGH...I want to teach my kids BOTH! I want to do it RIGHT! It is so hard to know where the line is! Thanks for your page and for sharing your insight to this mama who just wants to do the best for her NT and ASD kiddos!<br /><br />ElizabethAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426050656197929065.post-91233437228121790622013-01-01T11:40:38.389-05:002013-01-01T11:40:38.389-05:00Very true.Very true.ColinBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16814589691949632781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426050656197929065.post-84331897571758037192012-12-31T18:05:21.582-05:002012-12-31T18:05:21.582-05:00I was never given formal social skills training, b...I was never given formal social skills training, but I did have several of these messages forced on me. I was so heavily pressured to engage with people that I have had several "friendships" in my life where the other person wanted to be friends with me, but I did not want to be friends with them. I remained "friends" with them because I'd been shamed so long for not socializing enough. So I'd internalized the message that I was not allowed to say "no" if someone wanted to engage in some kind of social activity with me. By always agreeing to do stuff with people, they started thinking I was their friend when I really wasn't. It was awful. I felt so bad, like I was deceiving them, and I couldn't end it because I didn't know how, and I didn't want to hurt their feelings.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com