Tuesday, October 1, 2013

A Carnival of Aces: Fluidity

I'm a wee bit late on the September Carnival of Aces, but here it be. The theme? Fluidity.

In my gender identity and my sexuality/romantic stuff, some things are fluid. Some things really aren't.
My lack of anything you could call a sex drive? Yeah, that's not fluid. Sex drive is a consistent 404 page not found, no fluidity there.
Aesthetic attraction of finding people physically attractive? That's got some fluidity. Sometimes I'm more likely to notice people who are more feminine. Sometimes I'm more likely to notice people who are more masculine. Sometimes I'm more likely to notice people who aren't really either. It's varied, fluid.
Romantic attraction? Yeah, that's kind of fluid. Sometimes I'm closer to aromantic, and sometimes I'm not. Sometimes romantic attraction is, like, what? What is that? And sometimes I can imagine spending the rest of my life coming home to the same person and sharing a life with them. Sometimes. Other times, not so much. The idea of going out on a date? The idea that this is romantic? I don't understand. The idea of a life partner sounds cool, sometimes, but the trappings of romance confuse me, always. It's varied, fluid.
Gender identity? Here, have all the fluidity. Sort of. I stay within androgyny, but I move around a lot within that space. It's a bigger space than a lot of people seem to realize.
Hi. I'm Queer, and I'm asexual, and it's fluid. Fluidity is a thing.

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