Trigger Warning: Ableism
http://www.thestar.com/iphone/news/article/1173602--disabled-couple-thrilled-they-ll-be-able-to-keep-their-baby
That's the article I'm talking about. I'm glad they can keep their baby. I really am. BUT:
http://www.thestar.com/iphone/news/article/1173602--disabled-couple-thrilled-they-ll-be-able-to-keep-their-baby
That's the article I'm talking about. I'm glad they can keep their baby. I really am. BUT:
This is treated as a victory. I see the
fact that we even need to ask if a couple who have cerebral palsy,
but have demonstrated that they CAN feed and clothe their child, and
that they CAN do what they need to do to care for a child, should be
allowed to keep their child as a sign that something is very wrong.
It's like the couple where they were both blind, had a child, and
everyone freaked. If they're living in a way that they've been doing
fine themselves, have the supports they need for themselves, and are
capable of performing all the actions needed to take care of a kid so
long as they are still receiving the supports they need, they can
take care of a kid. Cerebral palsy doesn't make you stupid. It messes
with muscle control and does tend to cause slurred speech. It doesn't
affect cognition. If they've already shown that they have the motor
control to change diapers and breastfeed, and if they already have
someone helping with the parts they have trouble with, case closed.
They aren't abusing the kid, they want to keep the kid, and they are
taking care of the kid. That's it. End of story.
And yes, people make that sort of
assumption, that disabled equals unable to raise children, fairly
often. It just ain't true. Have an amputation? I've seen people with
amputations get around and carry things just fine, things heavier
than babies. Cerebral palsy? They're clearly pulling it off. Blind?
Uh, if you can navigate the world around you without seeing, you can
navigate the world around you without seeing. If you need to
physically hold onto the baby with one hand to make sure their head
stays above water because you can't see to tell, you hold onto the
baby. Whoop-dee-do. If it takes both parents to bathe the baby
because of that, then it takes both parents. Again, Whoop-dee-do.
When people with disabilities finds out they are going to be
parents, they think about how they can make it work. They find ways
of making it work, given the proper supports. And they succeed, as
long as we let them try, which is kind of the opposite of taking the
baby away.
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